PleasureFWRD: Somatic Consent Method
Unlock the Art of Pleasure: Discover the PleasureFWRD Ongoing-Consent Method
Have you ever experienced a moment where your boundaries were pushed so far that your nervous system kicked into overdrive—leaving you frozen, dissociated, or overwhelmed by the urge to fight or flee? Gen Z might call this "the ick," Millennials might label it "cringe," and Boomers might describe it as "being put on the spot." Whatever the term, it all points to one thing: the need for clear, ongoing consent. Enter the PleasureFWRD Ongoing-Consent Method, a revolutionary approach to navigating intimacy and relationships with clarity, confidence, and connection.
What is the PleasureFWRD Consent Method?
Drawing from the wisdom of the Wheel of Consent and Somatica®️, the PleasureFWRD Method is all about peeling back the layers of your body’s sensations, desires, and boundaries, until you’re fully aligned with your true self. Think of it as a roadmap to pleasure—not just the physical kind, but the deep, soul-satisfying kind that comes when you truly listen to your body and honor your needs.
Here’s how it works:
Feel: Tune In to Your Body’s Sensual Wisdom
Pleasure starts as a sensation in your body, an emotion, a feeling, or a thought. What’s your body telling you right now? Feel the warmth in your chest, the tension in your shoulders, or the soft buzz of your fingertips. The first step is simply tuning in.
Practice: Close your eyes for a moment and notice where your body feels alive. Is it craving touch, movement, or simply rest? When you pause and listen, you’re giving yourself permission to experience what’s real for you, right now.
Why it matters: When you listen to your body’s messages, you can make choices that honor your true self. Ignoring these signals? That’s where we end up disconnected, or worse, letting someone else’s desires override our own.
Want: Own Your Desires—No Guilt, No Shame
What do you truly want in this moment? This step is all about being brave enough to ask for what you need—whether that’s asking for a hug, making space for self-care, or sharing an intimate request. The key here? No judgment.
Practice: Close your eyes again, and ask yourself: "If I could have anything right now, what would it be?" Write it down. No filters, no shame.
Why it matters: Owning your desires isn’t selfish—it’s an invitation for deeper connection. When you express your needs, you’re opening the door for others to do the same.
Respond: Set Boundaries that Feel Like Love
Consent is more than just saying “yes” or “no.” It’s about responding—first to yourself, then to others—with clarity and respect. Boundaries aren’t walls; they’re the road signs that guide us safely to where we want to go.
Practice: Think back to a time you said "yes" when you really wanted to say "no." How did it feel in your body? Now, take a deep breath and practice saying this: “Thank you for sharing your desires with me. They are hot and sexy, I’m feeling… and I’m in the mood for...”
Why it matters: Boundaries are a gift you give yourself and the people around you. They create safety and trust. The more you honor your limits—and those of others—the more expansive your pleasure becomes.
Do: Take Aligned Action
This is where the magic happens. It’s time to bring your desires and boundaries to life through action. What are you ready to give, receive, or experience? By aligning your actions with your authentic self, you’re creating harmony, trust, and a sensual flow that deepens every connection.
Practice: Think of one small action you can take today to bring more pleasure into your life. Maybe it’s taking a long, relaxing bath, asking your partner for something specific, or simply breathing deeply to ground yourself in the present.
Why it matters: Action turns intention into reality. When you align your actions with your feelings and desires, you make consent a lived practice—one that’s rich, exciting, and full of pleasure.
How the FWRD Method Transforms Relationships
The PleasureFWRD method isn’t just for intimate or romantic relationships—it’s for every connection you have. When you practice these four steps, you’re building trust, safety, and deeper communication with everyone in your life, from friends to coworkers to lovers. Here’s what you can expect:
Greater self-awareness and self-trust.
More fulfilling conversations and connections.
A foundation of safety, respect, and mutual pleasure.
An open heart, ready for deeper, more meaningful connections.
Your Next Step Toward Pleasure
Pleasure isn’t a luxury—it’s your birthright. And the PleasureFWRD Method is your invitation to unlock it. Start small: tune into your body, own your desires, and set one clear boundary today. Watch as these simple steps create profound shifts in your life.
Ready to dive deeper? Join me for an upcoming PleasureFWRD Workshop where we’ll explore these practices together. We’ll turn embodied consent into something that feels sexy, safe, and totally aligned with who you are.
Feel. Want. Respond. Do. Your pleasure. Your choice.
