Sex, Resentment, and Libido: The Unspoken Truth About Women’s Desire.

Resentment is a feeling many women know all too well, especially when it comes to sex. It's a nagging sense that something's not quite right, but can't quite be put into words. For many, this resentment grows from the disconnect between their own desires and the expectations placed upon them.

In my work as a sex and relationship coach, I often see women who struggle with this sense of disconnection. They feel like they're just going through the motions, having sex because it's what's expected of them, rather than because they truly desire to. This resentment can stem from various sources: unmet desires, lack of communication, trauma, and pain.

The Weight of Resentment

Resentment is a heavy burden to carry, especially when it comes to sex. It's a feeling that can be difficult to shake and can have serious consequences for our relationships and our own sense of self.

So, what can we do to break free from this resentment and reclaim our desire? The answer lies in communication, self-care, and a willingness to explore our own desires.

Communication is Key

Open and honest communication with our partner is essential for building trust and understanding. This means being willing to have difficult conversations and to listen to our partner's needs and desires.

Explore Your Desires

Taking time to explore our own desires and needs is crucial for rebuilding a healthy and fulfilling relationship with sex. This means being willing to ask ourselves difficult questions, and to seek out new experiences and pleasures.

Prioritize Self-Care

Making self-care a priority is essential for our overall well-being, and for our relationship with sex. This means taking time for ourselves, engaging in activities that bring us joy, and prioritizing our own needs and desires.

Seek Support

Finally, seeking support from a therapist or sex coach can be incredibly helpful in working through resentment and building a healthier relationship with sex. This means being willing to seek out help, and to be patient and compassionate with ourselves as we work through difficult emotions.

Reclaiming Your Desire

Reclaiming our desire is not always easy, but it is possible. By prioritizing communication, self-care, and our own desires, we can start to rebuild a healthier and more fulfilling relationship with sex.